Coping with a College LDR


Coping with a College LDR
College LDRs are challenging and require a lot of work but they're not impossible.

This may seem like a no-brainer but it's worth mentioning anyway. LDRs of the past only had the telephone and snail mail to keep up with significant others far away. These days, the options have expanded dramatically, making it convenient for couples to keep in touch in ways that are the most suitable for them. But to maintain a truly strong college LDR, you'll want to step up your game when it comes to using technology to your advantage. Instead of just Skyping each other a few times out of the week, make the most of this experience.

Set aside at least one night out of the week for "Skype Date Night." This is one evening where it's just you and your sweetie with no distractions. Don't be afraid to dress up! It might seem silly at first but what's wrong with wanting to look your best--not to mention you'll be reminding them of what they have and why it's worth waiting for!


Love your smart phone? Use it for more than just texting, checking emails and updating your Facebook status. Record a mini video of yourself and send it to your sweetie to let him/her know you're thinking of them. Plan on going somewhere fun and wish your partner was with you? Record yourself and document your experience so you can share it with your boyfriend/girlfriend. This gives you the opportunity to include them in your life even though they're not right there beside you. The possibilities are endless with technology and it can be a great asset to any college LDR.

Go Past Basic Communication

Sure, talking on a regular basis is essential for any LDR but because those in college have an entirely different lifestyle to deal with, it's crucial to cover all aspects of the communication game. This means not just chatting away about your classes, the professor you can't stand or venting about how much studying you have to do. Mention those topics but also focus on each other. Chances are you know your boyfriend/girlfriend very well so the minute you sense a change in their attitude, voice or interaction with you, don't hesitate to ask how they're feeling or if there's anything on their mind they want to talk about.

Checking in with each other on an emotional level is important because it decreases the odds of keeping those feelings inside and causing miscommunication (we all know how destructive that can be). This doesn't mean getting into a super deep discussion every time you talk but simply asking "How are you?" or how they're feeling about your LDR status can go a long way in opening up the doors for your significant other to tell you what's going on in their lives.

Know When to Call It Quits

Hoping for the best but preparing for the worst is inevitable sometimes. College LDRs can be successful but they can also fail miserably. The worst thing any couple can do is deny the status of their relationship to the point where they're no longer sure of where they are in the equation. Just as you plan on making the commitment to one another at the beginning of your college LDR, you both also need to make the commitment to be honest enough to know when to end it.

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