N: Right, and you wonder whether they would have gone just as wrong had Violet instead stayed behind in San Francisco to support Tom's career. There's a lot of bruising Tom's delicate male ego takes, and you feel bad for him, but still wonder whether he would have just sucked it up had he been a woman. I liked the parallels in the movie too — Violet's sister gives up her career because she gets pregnant with Andy from Parks & Rec's baby (okay, fine, the character's name is Alex and he's played by Chris Pratt). So in a sense, love is about sacrifice. Is that the moral? Is there a moral?
A: I think that might be it. It's hard enough to find one person you love, even before you figure in how compatible your interests, lives, goals and such are. Most of us aren't going to find someone who's even 90 percent compatible with us. And if we do, that may not be the person we end up with. Love is about maintaining the desire to make it work. The movie also makes a point about postponing marriage, which is that you're never going to be totally ready. What do you think?
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N: I think the point the movie makes is that you're never really going to find the "perfect" person, but that life isn't perfect, and when it feels right, you just have to go with it. I don't think the movie advocates postponing marriage — it shows the characters getting progressively unhappy the longer their engagement drones on.
On an unrelated note, I felt like Mindy Kaling's talents were way underused here. She could have had more screen time as Violet's wacky sidekick, discussing Tom's craziness over brunch! Violet could have used a girlfriend here other than her sister. I would also like to add that Jason Segel and Emily Blunt have a surprisingly hot on-screen chemistry.
A: I'm not a sucker for weddings at all, but I did like the choose-your-own-adventure style wedding at the end. I wouldn't give it away, but you can say it's the sweetest movie wedding ever and shows that the best stuff in life works out without rigid planning.
N: I agree! That wedding scene alone makes the movie worth watching.
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