Are Separate Bedrooms a Good Idea?

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Are Separate Bedrooms a Good Idea?
60% of new homes being built have two master bedrooms. What could this mean?

A couple of weeks ago I ruined an almost-date. I was standing in line waiting to go into an event when a guy, standing behind me, struck up a conversation. We chatted for quite awhile and eventually got around to his divorce. I don't recall the details but I do recall his look of horror when I said something about wanting separate bedrooms if I ever got married. He thought that was a terrible idea. I was pretty sure he was going to ask he out before I said that, but he didn't. I'm not sure if my separate bedrooms idea is the reason he didn't ask me out, but I have learned that talking about the appeal of separate bedrooms can elicit some pretty strong reactions. Maybe I should have waited.

Anyway, that scenario reminded me of a few years ago, when a guy I was dating brought up the subject of marriage.  I kind of had a panic attack which I blamed on feeling like I was catching the flu.  Once I calmed down (and was safely home), I called my friend, Benilde.  As we talked, I tried to envision what it might be like to be married to him and I remember saying to her, “at the very least, we would have to have separate bedrooms” (and I’m thinking to myself “maybe even on separate floors”.)    I would really need to have my own space. Lots of it.

Benilde was very much against that, telling me that sharing a bed was one of the most intimate parts of marriage…not in a sexual way, but in a pillow talk kind of way.  She said “Some of a couple’s most important conversations happen in bed.  You can’t sleep in separate rooms”.  So I thought “Eff it, then”.  That was the only way this was going to happen.   I wasn’t giving it  serious consideration anyway, but that little chat shut it all the way down. Read more: http://www.thespinsterliciouslife.com/2012/04/whats-wrong-with-separate-...

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