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Help! I Can't Stop Thinking About My Mean Ex


What to do when your ex's unkind words stick in your head.

If you've ever been through a difficult breakup, you know it can take a long time to recover. Is it possible to forgive and forget? How can you get over his harsh words?

In this video, Family & Relationship Therapist, Bestselling Author and YourTango Expert Dr. Bonnie Weil discusses what to do when you can't stop thinking about the mean things your ex said to you before you broke up.  "Do you realize that forgiveness is a gift you give yourself?" asks Dr. Bonnie. Holding onto anger only hurts you.

Want to hear more of Dr. Bonnie's advice? Check out the video above.


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