As if divorce isn't hard enough, what's a parent supposed to to when his or her ex is spoiling their kids with gifts in a shameless attempt to buy their love and loyalty? In this video, Family/Relationship Therapist, Bestselling Author and YourTango Expert Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil explains how very common this unfortunate experience is and what you can do when it happens to you. Should I Stay Married For The Sake Of My Kids?
Dr. Bonnie calls the phenomenon Disney Dad. "Your ex-husband is trying to make up for the fact that he's not tucking the children in bed [at night]." In other words, to appease his own sense of guilt about the breakup, he's overcompensating with presents. But why? Dr. Bonnie says it's because while women communicate affection with words and physica displays like hugs and kisses, men aren't equipped to do the same.
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How can you solve the problem? "Explain to your ex-husband you're not going to compete for their affections," says Dr. Bonnie. For more tips, check out the video above.