But if I focus on what is right with my spouse, I can create a flourishing meme. My husband is such a hard-worker. I have tried to communicate this fact over the years to our two children. I believe through my acknowledgment, and their own observations and experiences with their dad, that they really do appreciate all that he has done for us as a family. This was evidenced a few months ago. 6 Lessons I Learned By Talking To My Teenage Daughter
While we were visiting my daughter and her family in another state at Christmas, my husband was outside one afternoon working on their snow blower. As she looked out the window watching her dad at work in freezing temperatures, my daughter commented, "Oh, daddy, he is always taking care of things for us." I just loved hearing her say that.
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More importantly, I love hearing my daughter share similar feelings about her spouse. She values and respects her husband's integrity and work ethic.
Dr. Catherine Hart Weber, a Christian therapist, extols the virtues of positive psychology on her website. However, she believes in combining the elements of this philosophy with the teachings of Christ, uniting science and faith, if you will. A Lasting Promise: A Christian Guide to Fighting for Your Marriage
There are many verses in the Bible that encourage us to think positively. Philippians 4:8 instructs us on how to discipline our thoughts: "Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."
Lyricist Johnny Mercer, whose many songs were made famous by crooners Bing Crosby and Frank Sinatra, wrote the fun song, "Ac-Cent-Tchu-Ate the Positive." The song, first recorded in 1944, is sung sermon-like, because it was actually based on a sermon Mercer heard in church. The chorus goes like this:
You've got to accentuate the positive
Eliminate the negative
And latch on to the affirmative
Don't mess with Mister In-Between
Some of you may recognize the words. You can hear Bing sing it on YouTube for the melody. Paul McCartney just covered it on a recent album. From a sermon to a song—great words and a catchy tune—a meme! Nurture Relationships and Watch Them Flourish
If we would realize the importance of that song's message, what a turnabout our lives could take. Just think, if we would daily "take captive every thought" in obedience to Christ's teaching (II Corinthians 10:5), how much better our marital relationships would be. Our marriages would truly "flourish."
Now I am not saying we need to publicize our marriage memes on the Internet; we just need to internalize them in our lives, then see how they take flight.
So, I have a challenge for you. A quick-and-simple assignment. Will you try this for me? Or more accurately, will you try this for you? For you, and for your relationship? Our Challenge Can Be Our Greatest Gift
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Here it is: Write down five things you love and appreciate about your spouse. Create your own poster memes and post them, not on your Facebook, but around the house or wherever you will see them. Then, this week, follow Christ's advice, and think about these things.