Study Says Living Alone Can Cause Depression

By

Study Says Living Alone Can Cause Depression [EXPERT]
Why living alone might not be such a great idea after all.

As an only child, Norma grew up living for parental approval, never getting it and becoming bitterly lonely as a result. Norma's parents were each harsh disciplinarians who expected their daughter to be seen but not heard. Norma's parents had died within two years of each other, when she was in her early twenties. But, in her words, "Even though neither one is here, I hear their voices and just cannot change the behaviors that cause me to sit on myself, rather than let go, make friends, believe in who I am and have fun.

Our work together has helped her to loosen up a great deal. She gave herself assignments involving spending time with others who lived very differently than she and learning that their ways of setting a table, cooking, cleaning, sewing, exercising and the like worked well for them and had their plusses. She also practiced sentences that she could use with others to open conversations and show them that she was interested in them. 7 Ways To Survive The Spring Holiday Season

Norma, after just a few sessions, realized that the parental demand that she never raise her voice in song, enjoy spontaneity, or as she called it, "color outside of the lines" caused her to be terrified of creative expression. She apologized to her friend for what she realized had been her rudeness.

The next time a birthday celebration came along, although not comfortable, she sang along as long as the music went on. Her new boyfriend was also a beneficiary of who Norma described as "the new me." Each were delighted that not only could she now enjoy breakfast in bed but also lovemaking amidst the crumbs.

To Read Great Sex Advice:

Article contributed by
Advanced Member

SaraKay Smullens

Author

I look forward to your thoughts and sharing with you.

To be continued,

SaraKay Smullens, MSW, BCD, LCSW, ACSW, CFLE, CGP 

Location: Philadelphia, PA
Credentials: BCD, MSW
Other Articles/News by SaraKay Smullens:

Understanding Three Types of Marital Relationships

By

In the years that I have been working with couples, I have seen that there are three basic kinds of marriages.  There can be some overlap in the types; but it helps to understand all three, and their uniqueness.  I share this categorization because it can help individuals to understand some of the reasons why they may not be fulfilled in their ... Read more

Why Some People Are Cruel And How To Deal With Them

By

Here are a few examples of the different kinds of cruel people that exist in our world and a solution on how to deal with them.  The Supposed Friend & The Cheating Boyfriend My 20-year-old client, a college senior, was both sobbing with pain and shaking with rage. She had learned just a few hours before she called for an emergency appointment ... Read more

How To End Your Relationships With Negative 'Friends'

By

Communication gurus usually advise folks to honestly talk out problems and share intimacies as the most useful means to solve discord and enhance relationships. But here's the catch to this counsel: It only works with those who are determined to develop the capacity for this kind of communication, if they do not already have it. Communication gurus also ... Read more

See More

GET MORE ARTICLES LIKE THIS IN YOUR INBOX!

Sign up for our daily email and get the stories everyone is talking about.

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

FROM AROUND THE WEB