Spring Cleaning: 5 Ways To Freshen Up Your Relationship

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One writer and wife proposes five ideas for putting the spark back in your romance.

2. Become reacquainted. While you're dating, you may as well be playing a never-ending game of 21 questions--there's so much you don't know about each other, and of course you're trying to determine whether the two of you are a good match. The silly thing, though, is that often we long-termers stop asking questions! Maybe we have our routine arsenal of: "How was work today? Did the kids behave? What else has the dog destroyed?" But we forget to ask the juicier, more soul-probing questions you asked when you were first figuring each other out. Us humans are always changing, so keep on learning about who your partner is becoming. It will make your bond stronger and the conversation a lot more interesting! 10 Questions To Ask Your Guy About His Past

3. Change the scenery in the master bedroom. Couples often retreat to hotels or resorts to fire up their intimacy, but what if you could achieve that same end by just changing the scenery in your own home? I know I, personally, neglected our master bedroom for far too long—it wasn't as important to me as the rest of the house, because visitors won't be spending any time in our bedroom, right? Well, of course not, but the two most important people in the equation will be spending plenty of time there, so as cheesy as it may sound, I decided I want to make our bedroom a regular little love nest. For you, it may mean a new coat of paint on the walls, buying that down comforter and pillows you've been eyeing, or maybe just rearranging furniture to make it feel like a new room. Like I said before, change triggers the brain to think new thoughts and feel new ways... a winning combination!

4. Marriage counseling. Whoa! That one came out of left field, didn't it? Most couples view marriage counseling as something scary that symbolizes failure or impending divorce, but it really doesn't have to mean either of those things. Really. I can tell you from personal experience that marriage counseling is extremely helpful for any couple that ever argues or fights. Yep, I think that about covers most of us. Counselors are trained to teach you how to recognize unhealthy patterns in your relationships and the underlying issues you may be unaware of, and me and my husband's own experience with a counselor was incredibly eye-opening. I urge all my couple friends to forget the stereotype, and look at counseling as no different than a routine exam with your family doctor. It's not always fun, but it's the healthy thing to do. Relationships are rough sometimes, so why not chat with a professional who specializes in helping you solve your problems? 4 Surprising Benefits of Online Marriage Counseling

5. Last but not least... plan a vacation! Even if you don't have the dates down yet or you're not sure when you'll be able to afford it, start planning out the details of that wonderful, rejuvenating vacation you'll be taking first chance you get. It will give the two of you something to anticipate and work towards together, and having that goal in your sights will help take the edge off what can often feel like monotony in everyday life. Go all out and plan your dream vacation, or keep it simple and plan something a little closer to home—but do it together.

Spring symbolizes so much: new birth, growth, and the promise of good things to come. But this season, while you're cleaning out those dusty closets and airing out your laundry, don't forget to tend to your relationship, too. Treat it like your most precious possession, and watch it bloom just like the world outside your window.