How many of us have been surprised when “the one” turns out to be “the awful one,” and we ask ourselves, "What was I thinking?" Somewhere along the way, the healthy boundaries where your needs and wants exist were either not set or were overlooked in the passion of the moment. At one point, you had a wonderful amount of comfy space, and now this partner is standing on your toes. A fantastic example of this is Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries’ 72-day marriage. Really, you can ask the right questions by the second date, but you just have to be open to the answer.
3. Apply Tools
Now that you’ve set healthy boundaries and insisted on a self full existence, it’s time to bring the tools of Date Therapy and your subconscious mind to find your ideal mate. You now have the recipe for success, and you will soon find the life and love of your dreams!
People often ask me,"Can I reset my feelings so that I fall for someone I feel that I should like if I am not really attracted to them?" The answer is “no,” and you also can’t your force others to modify their behaviors, so don't try to force it or make it fit. If you are just coming out of a relationship, have fun with phases 1 and 2 before taking on phase 3. Watch your favorite comedy or read a book. Take a bubble bath with your favorite fragrance and drink a glass of champagne. Go out with your pals if you’re not quite ready to date. You’ll still have an amazing time, and you will find that Date Therapy + healthy boundaries = The relationship of your dreams.
DrTranquility-Lydia Belton is a mental health expert with a background in Psychology, Relaxation Physiology for Mind-Body Medicine from Harvard University's Mind- Body Institute, and Columbia University's Rosenthal Center in Botanical Medicine. She is known for her exclusive B Well TV productions which have aired on Current and various Internet TV platforms, including on the B Well TV channel. She's also the co-author of the book Let the Sun Shine In.