Dear Dr. Romance:
Why am I intimidating? After I start talking to guys and I've hooked up with them, some have told me I am intimidating and they become shy in person. I'm not like scary or creepy or anything. (I'm tall, skinny, blonde hair and blue eyes.) But is there anything I can do to fix that? Is it a bad thing?
You don't appear to have trouble attracting a first date, so I'm going to take a wild guess that you either talk too much about yourself or you argue with whatever the guy is saying. So, try listening more and discussing the issues rather than arguing or objecting. "How to Be Irresistible to your Mate" has guidelines for being more open and cooperative. "Guidelines for Successful Dating" will show you how to get from the first date to many future dates. The Unofficial Guide to Dating Again will answer all your dating questions.