Step 5: Talk to your partner. Now that you’ve had time to make a dent in your bank account, it’s time for the talk. Be honest and tell your partner where you stand. If your partner insists on knowing the reason for the breakup, simply mention, “you’re a great person, but this relationship just isn’t working.” Or, “we’ve both grown and changed into different people.” Or, “we’re just not on the same path anymore.” Whatever you do, keep it civil. This also gives your partner the heads up so that they can start saving and preparing for their new lifestyle change as well.
Step 6: Be civil when leaving. Since breakups, life changes even, rarely happen we are able to handle them, or when the lease to your place is up, decide how you will handle this together. Remember, you both signed a lease with a landlord who could care less about your relationship woes. One of you, if not both of you, are responsible for the bill. In some cases, a landlord may let you out of your lease. In that case, be prepared to shell out a huge fee associated with this.
Although it may be tempting to stiff your partner with the bills, don’t. If you had any revolving accounts together, such as a joint credit card, a home, or a vehicle decide who will keep what, who will pay for this and that, and so on. Of course, this includes helping your partner pay the final rent and utilities. Just as in any other situation you would be expected to pay any final utilities, rent and so forth at your last place of residence before moving, do the same in this scenario. Split the bills the same way you did previously, one last time, or according to whatever agreement the two of you come up with.
Besides, failure to do so could leave unfavorable marks on your credit, which could impact your ability to rent or buy in the future. Just because the relationship doesn’t work doesn’t mean you should wreck any chances of salvaging a friendship in the future with your new ex. Besides, there should be no real hard feelings, just disappointment that a good one, turned out not to be the right one.
Have you ever been with a great person, but things just didn't work out? I'd love to hear from you on this subject.
***N. Meridian is an editor and freelance writer of many subjects.***