The world tells us to stand up for ourselves and to never let a man run us over. But how does this translate to relationships, particularly if we really want to keep traditional values alive? Askmen Survey Reveals Men Are Traditional Daters
Lots of women balk when they hear what the Bible has to say about a wife's role. There's that verse about being submissive. Several, in fact. Here's one: "Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord" (Ephesians 5:22, NIV). Not the most popular notion anymore, is it? Submission kind of makes you think of a dog laying on its back with its tail between its legs. Not exactly in my makeup. Probably not in yours, either. But I think that's OK, because I have a feeling that's not the kind of submission God intended in a marriage.
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When it comes to submission, us girls have to keep in mind that God requires much of our men, too. A man must "...provide for his relatives, and especially for his immediate family..." (1 Timothy 5:8, NIV). Husbands are called to "love their wives as their own bodies" (Ephesians 5:28 NIV) and to "never treat them harshly" (Colossians 3:19, NLT). Oh, and guess what? 1 Peter 3:7 instructs husbands to "honor" their other halves.
There's that word again, the one I've been thinking about a lot lately: Honor. Isn't that what it's about? I Was In A Dominant/Submissive Relationship
Yes. A woman must respect and submit to her husband. Let him lead. Build him up. Encourage him. But I think honor is at the core of it all—for men and women. It might be an old-fashioned idea, but it works. If we all practiced it in today's modern world, I think we'd find our marriages growing stronger and happier. Here are a few things I've learned about what honoring my man really means:
Honoring your husband means treating him like the man all the time, not just when you expect him to take the trash out, or fix the toilet, or buy you a bouquet of flowers for no reason.
Honoring your husband means cutting the criticism and certainly not criticizing him in public. Making him look small doesn't make you look big. How To Stop The Cycle Of Criticism In A Relationship
Honoring your husband means respecting his opinions, even when they differ from yours, and engaging in conversation—not argument.
Honoring your husband means asking him for what you want, not just complaining when he didn't read your mind.
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And honoring your husband, yes, sometimes means putting yourself aside for a bit. In a good relationship, that same selflessness will be reciprocated. When you honor him, he honors you. Win-win.