But he’s also a planner. Less than a month in and he’s already asked me if I’d ever consider co-habitating in a space that accommodated all the kids. He is a nester and wants more time with me than I can give him. Things have changed with my ex and now my kids are with me all the time. There are no free weekends to get away or stay snuggled up in bed together. But instead of cutting and running away from new guy, I’m discussing the situation and talking to him about tempering his expectations. He says that he will take me however/whenever he can get me but I have a sneaking suspicion that this will become an unsustainable setup for one or both of us at some point. I keep cautioning him (and myself) to be in the moment, to enjoy the good feelings we’re giving each other and try to make too many plans. I’m just okay committing to going to see a play at the end of the month. But let’s not get too far ahead of ourselves.
I don’t know where this is all going. I don’t like not knowing but I also know this is the path my life must take and with each passing relationship I’m finding my voice and getting closer to where I need to be.
This blog was originally posted by Imani True on SexyFeminist.com.