Are you ready to take on the role of husband/wife?
Being a spouse is different than being a boyfriend, girlfriend or even fiancé. Because this husband or wife label is for real. It's for life. It requires more responsibilities and a lot more attention. Marriage may not be a job, but it is hard work. Like I said earlier, marriage requires effort. When you get married, you share everything. This is essential if you want to have a trusting and open marriage. The "what's mine is yours, and what's yours is mine" rule goes into effect when you get married, and that includes everything: Money, bills, rent or mortgage, credit card debt, and even school loans. You're adopting your spouse's… everything. You have to be prepared for that. 3 Unfair Things About My Husband
Do you have a financial plan?
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Take it from me, never lie about a purchase to your spouse. Hello, online and mobile banking and joint checking accounts! They can be your best friend, or your worst enemy. Well, maybe just money in general can, since it is one of the subjects married couples fight about most.
Get to know what kind of person your spouse is in terms of how he handles money. Of course, you want to make sure he is financially responsible, but you also want to share how you both spend, save and plan for the future. Set some ground rules before getting hitched. My husband and I were upfront with each other from the beginning about our finances, spending habits, and personal debt. Every couple is different, but my husband and I decided that joint checking accounts were best for us. Only you and your partner will know what works for the two of you. But you should talk about before marriage. 10 Habits Of Financially Healthy Couples
If you are confused on any of these questions, cannot find an answer, or don't feel like you can ask your S.O.—then, friend, don't get married until you can get the answers you need to make an informed decision about your future and future spouse. If you have to talk yourself into marriage, you're definitely not ready. You should never involve yourself in a marriage until you decide you are truly ready for it.
Infatuation can look a lot like love. But the difference is this: Love has patience, while infatuation has a sense of urgency. And when that urgency fades away, you realize you were wrong. That's why you need to be sure you're dealing with the real thing before you tie the knot. Marriage is 'til death. The divorce rate is high, but if you go into the wedding prepared, with the mutual thinking that splitting up is not an option, your chances of a great, forever bond will go way up. How I Fell Madly In Lust With My Husband
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If you want a marriage that will be happy, healthy and lating, be sure that you and your partner are without-a-shadow-of-a-doubt ready for the full-time commitment. Weddings can wait. But once your married, there's no slowing down or stopping. You'd better be prepared.