Bad experiences will change a person and make them bitter, if they are not able to work through the experience.Make it a point to keep your head clear, and do not call your ex’s family or friends to find out if they are with someone new. Your mind may want to know facts or details about your ex, but you are setting yourself up for heartache which leads to bitterness. And bitterness leads to much unwanted negativity. You are creating a, avenue of failure, and keeping yourself stuck in self pity. You may never open your new door to a new love, if you stay locked inside your bitter, resentful door.
3) Surround yourself with happiness and positive people.
Try and find gratitude in all that you do. A bitter, arrogant personality in a woman is what men and woman find extremely irritating. It is a complete turn off for all. Have you ever heard some one speaking so angrily about their ex? Words were said with such fury and hate, that you hadto turn your head to look and see who is speaking? No matter how bad someone hurt you, as you voice your verbiage aloud, about your opinion of this person, you sound like a retched evil person. Although you are heartbroken, you are repelling people and causing others to unfairly judge you for your words, not for the respectable person you were before your heart was broken. You never know who can hear you. Prospective new bosses, a friend of a friend, even your ex’s family may be in ears reach of your words. Your anger and man bashing can cause you to appear so volatile that you may not get that new job. Your words can get back to your ex, making him/her lash back out of defense, causing more anger and pain in yourself. You have kept your cycle of negativity alive, and stepped on any chances of positive happiness in your near future.
4) Forgive and Let Go
You cannot attract any new opportunities, or a new love, if you do not find forgiveness. Lack of forgiveness will lead to hate. The first phase to Bounce Back is to release negative energy. “Before you can even begin to bounce back, we believe you need to be positive and focused on yourself - and that means releasing the negative energy in your life.” If you are man bashing, you have not released your negative energy. You have only set yourself up for more heartache in other realms of your life”. No one likes a “man-basher” or a permanent, angry victim. At the end of the day, you are only bashing your own life, when you outwardly bash another human being.
I leave you with the “Optimist Creed.” It is a wonderful creed to live by. As you feel the anger, hurt, or you feel the hatred seeping up from your heart, out through your lips, recite this poem. Read it over and over until it sinks into your bones.
The Optimist Creed
Promise Yourself ...
To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind.
To talk health, happiness and prosperity to every person you meet.
To make all your friends feel that there is something in them.
To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true.
To think only of the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best.
To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own.
To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.
To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile.
To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others.
To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.