What men really think when organising weddings

When he finally finds the moment to get on one knee and propose, it would have taken him hours and hours of thought and planning. No matter how special or awful it may have been the fact is that he really wanted to make you feel special and commit himself to you. It takes a lot out of a man to find the right ring, ask your parents’ permission and plan a proposal that will stay with you forever and consequently he is expecting to have a celebration followed by a relaxing period to settle into the new status of being engaged, because, simply put, it is a huge step.

While he sits back and enjoys engaged life, no doubt the bride to be will be frantically researching and planning the wedding. This is where men differ to women; men just want to have a couple of weeks where the topic is not about weddings. It is not that they just want to organise a stag do and are not interested in anything else; it is the fact that men cannot have too many thoughts running around their heads as it will lead to frustration and eventually could lead to them misinterpreting your effort to involve them as nagging. Simple questions once in a while asking him what he prefers could be an easy way of gauging his opinion, and if he says he is not bothered, then that simply means that he likes both and wants your opinion and for you to choose what you want.

Men see weddings slightly different to women. This is not in a bad way, the meaning of the ceremony and the occasion is hugely important. Men focus on the big things such as the meaning and significance of what is going to happen. Men are less excited about the little details such as flowers and table settings simply because they do not mind at all, they just want to get married to you, the girl of their dreams, then have a great time with family and friends. So in a way us men care about the shared experience with you and with the guests, which is a great way of thinking about it, they are only thinking about you and your happiness which is important to remember if you feel he is not as involved in planning as you would like. Ultimately the important thing is that you are getting married in the first place! He simply just wants you to be happy.

Men acknowledge that the little personal touches and tiny details make a huge difference, but they recognise that this is important to the bride and generally let them decide as it will make them happy and make their day extra special. If you want your fiancé involved in planning then think what he would like to be involved with, a few suggestions would be guest lists, food, drink, suits, table plans and maybe even cars or music. One thing is for sure, he will be involved in organising the stag weekend.

Overall men realise the significance of a wedding and are more than happy to chip in organising. Men are looking beyond the wedding day and genuinely believe that as long as the people they love are their at their wedding, then nothing else matters. Which ultimately is the most important thing.