3 measurements of compatibility
Finding that perfect person may seem like nothing more than just an illusion toward romantic idealism, but nevertheless it's still something a large majority of the single population pursue on a day to day basis, whether it's admitted or not. Nobody wants to make compromises when it comes to selecting the right person for complete and total commitment, but in all reality when you consider that no 2 people are exactly alike, then compromises are exactly what's required if you ever expect to maintain any type of long term relationship. The key to finding that ideal individual is in understanding which areas of the relationship should be considered areas that can allow compromise, and which areas are strictly taboo. We'll try and explore those areas in which there should be some leeway given, and the areas in which there should be full disclosure from the onset for which there can be no compromise whatsoever. Even though there are actually a multitude of factors that might help you determine which areas are important, I'm going to focus on the 3 most important, which can make or break a relationship.
First off let me start by saying that I'm not a complete authority on this issue, but I have been through my share of relationships in the past where I saw how compromising the areas that were important to me ultimately led to a breakdown in the bonds that keep a relationship worthy of keeping. On the flipside of these failures I can now say that I actually DID finally find the one person in this world who I can consider my soulmate, and what I'd like to convey is what makes our relationship phenomenal.
The base groundwork for any and every relationship starts and ends with one word, trust. Without it there can be nothing substantial or long lasting, and once the trust is broken, everything else goes straight downhill. There can be no compromise when it comes to whether or not you trust the spend person you're with, and from the very beginning it has to be understood that trust is gained, and never comes automatically, so only through the test of time can it be seen the behaviours of the person your with. It's not hard to miss when they have wandering eyes when others are around, and the old saying that it's OK to look is pure garbage trying to determine if this person considers you to be their one and only. It's not insecurity when they say they only have eyes for you, but their eyes tell the truth that they show interest in possible alternatives.
There also needs to be some sort of common interests, or otherwise the 2 of you will find yourselves spending your quality time away from each other enjoying what you truly want to do. Sure, the novelty of "opposites attract" may work on a short term basis, but in the end there has to be some kind of binding component that makes you want to spend as much time with them as possible, and not just for the need to satisfy sexual needs, which can get old after you've satisfied those primal urges.
Lastly I'd like to point out a relationship factor that can really be something that ultimately guides how each person responds under most conditions that confront the daily lives of the 2 people who want to stay together, and that factor is motivation. Motivation covers many areas, from the physical, to the spiritual, and all points in between. How long do you think a relationship will last when one person gives 100% of themselves towards the needs of the other person and the relationship as a whole, and the other person is only motivated to put forth effort when the occasion arises where they're forced to do something they normally wouldn't do? More than anything, both people need to be motivated to give whatever it takes to keeping a fair balance for any and all conditions that keep the relationship strong, or the relationship will ultimately fail, even if both people try and pretend that it's working.