How to deal when a sibling schedules his or her wedding within weeks of yours.
Dear Wendy: "Am I Turning Into A Bridezilla?"
I'm getting married in August and have been planning the wedding for over a year, so the date has been set for a while now. My brother—my only sibling—got engaged last weekend. I love him and his fiancée, but I was very upset when I found out today that they are planning to get married a mere six weeks before I do. Why couldn't they get married in May or November, so that there is more turn-around time? What if all of my out-of-state family comes to his wedding and then can't make it to mine? I invited them first! My mom is on the sickly side and is already stressed about one child getting married, so now I'm worried about her having to deal with two weddings back-to-back.
I'm worried that if I confront my brother and fiancée, it will turn into a sibling grudge match with lots of old dynamics rearing their ugly heads. I already asked my parents to mention how stressful it will be for them. Is that fair? Should I just suck it up and silently resent them so that twenty years from now when we are fighting over who gets mom's heirlooms I end up screaming, "I get them since you practically ruined my wedding!" —Trying Not To Be A Bridezilla
Oh man, I remember planning my own wedding two years ago and how I could go from totally Rational Sane Wendy to Miss Coo Coo Ca Choo in a matter or minutes, and I definitely was not a Bridezilla. So, I'm gonna give you the benefit of the doubt here and assume that the stress you're under is affecting your judgment. But, honey, let me give it to you straight: you are definitely venturing into crazy Bridezilla territory. You need to take some deep breaths and get a little perspective. As long as you still get to marry the man you love in good health and sound mind and the people who mean the most to you are present to witness it, there's no way your brother getting married six weeks before you is going to "ruin your wedding," and if you genuinely fear that it will, you need to get your priorities straight. The Frisky: Dear Wendy: "I Keep Thinking About Cheating"
While I can certainly appreciate how another family wedding so close to your own may add some stress to your life, you're really kind of blowing it out of proportion and losing sight of the big picture. You're also making your brother's engagement about you. It's not about you. It's about him and his fiancée. Whether they want a summer wedding instead of a May or November wedding isn't up to you. I’m sure they have plenty of good reasons, just as you do, for wanting a summer wedding, but the bottom line is those reasons aren't your business. Rather than let something that's out of your control make you crazy, why don't you embrace it? This is a joyous time! Two weddings in one summer.
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Written by Wendy Atterberry for The Frisky
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