Are you thinking, Why the hurry to figure it all out? I've thought about that, too. I can explain it with one verse. I remember being fixated on it from the time I was a preteen. It's the voice in the back of my head when I'm tempted to forget it all and fall for an agnostic. It's the words that keep me that single girl: "...Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires" (Song of Solomon 2:7, NIV). Why I Won't Date A Non-Christian
I've chosen to forget about all the "just having fun" that comes with dating when you're younger and not necessarily even looking to get married yet, because when it's not right, love is incredibly messy. It blinds us. It can cause us to make a ton of mistakes and hurt God. And it just might happen if I adopt an only-for-fun attitude. So, unless I know the relationship can go somewhere someday, I'd rather not waste his time or mine. Even if that leaves me single and waiting, which I can't say I'm always happy about.
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Frankly, sometimes this whole complicated tangle of deal breakers makes me frustrated with God. Um, hello? I am down here ready to do do Your will, Lord. So will you please send Mr. Right my way already?
I constantly have to remind myself God's already taking care of it. When I see a coupled-up pair on the street. When I meet a guy who's great, but isn't a practicing Christian and doesn't want to be. When I'm growing seriously impatient. That's when I repeat to myself, "'For I know the plans I have for you,' declares the Lord, 'plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future'" (Jeremiah 29:11, NIV). 7 Ways To Tell If He Plans To Marry You
I know God will send the right man my way in His good and perfect timing. The hope of the future is what keeps me searching for the Lord's match instead of settling for an earthly one. I don't know when I'll find him. Maybe I'm not ready yet. Whether I think I am or not doesn't matter, I have to accept God's opinion—even if that means I'm waiting 10, 20 or 30 years for love. Which is a hard pill to swallow.
But even still, I believe it will happen. Christ said in Mark 11:23, "I tell you the truth, if anyone says to this mountain, 'Go, throw yourself into the sea,' and does not doubt in his heart but believes that what he says will happen, it will be done for him." And I know that when it does happen, it will be worth the wait.
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