When I first found out about my husband's affair with his coworker, one of the first things I asked myself is: "Am I alone? Am I the only one in my neighborhood that is going through this awful crisis? Do I know anyone else that was cheated by her husband?"
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Searching for a little comfort, I went to find cheating statistics online. Here are some of the most astonishing facts I have found:
About 17 percent of divorces are caused by infidelity! That's an amazing number, considering there are so many other reasons for divorce...
About 70 percent of married men admitted to cheating on their wives! Another study found that 2/3 of women are not aware of their husband's affair. I can relate to that - It took a long time until I found out myself - when I decided to check his phone.
What about the women? Most statistics found that about 50 to 60 percent of women admitted to having an affair. This one really shocked me. Are there really millions of cheating women in the states? I never even imagined these statistics.
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I think that the first question that comes to a betrayed woman's mind is just WHY? Why did this happen to me? Why and how could he do this to me?
An interesting study, published on 2005, has some interesting answers to this question:
Dissatisfaction or "general unhappiness" in NOT correlated with marriage infidelity.
Sexual dissatisfaction DOES. The higher your husband is satisfied sexually, the lesser he is likely to cheat on you.
Lower self esteem and personal issues are likely to encourage infidelity.
If I get this right, it means the quality of the marriage doesn't affect the cheating potential, but more personal issues that are present "around" the marriage. This helped me realize that my husband's affair - Is not my fault!
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After reading about cheating statistics I found that I am one of millions of betrayed and hurt women in the states, This helped realize I am not alone and move to the next step, which was saving my marriage. I had many good reasons to do that (I still loved him; he still loved me, our children, etc...). I realized that we can't get through this long process of forgiveness and healing without HELP.
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We tried an alternative to marriage counseling that was amazing (go to http://how-to-save-marriage.org to see what it was) and worked long and hard to regain the trust and get back our healthy and happy relationship. To learn how I did it and save your marriage - gp to How to Save Marriage - Right now!!
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