The Voice of Reason: 5 Lessons Learnt


The Voice of Reason: 5 Lessons Learnt
There are three voices in my head. Reason. Conscience. & Heart. This is their tale.

Reflection: If he can't be bothered putting energy to go see you, then why would I put energy to see him? Constantly. I was being used. Just a little.



The dark car park.

I get myself into sticky situations. Often. This is one of them.

Heart: I love this song playing on the radio! Turn it up. Wait where is he taking us?

Conscience: Don't worry, it's just a car park... that is dark and abandoned.

Reason: Oh Brother.

Heart: Okay. So maybe you should have gotten to know him before going out with him.

Conscience: ...

Lesson No. 4: Don't date people who assume ... a LOT.

Reflection: Make clear your intentions. If you are grey about the actions you take you can't expect the guy to pick up on what you really want. Which is respect. Not to be taken to a random car park.


Love can be blind.

I had this amazing friend. Who would text me to listen to music. Have coffee. Go to the movies. Have dinner. I fell quite hard. He stepped quietly aside and I landed in a huddled heap on a concrete floor that had Cactus on it. All the while Heart and Conscience were talking in my ear.

Heart: It's great you have such an amazing friend. You should flirt with him!

Reason: He's not into you.

Conscience: Don't worry about Reason. She's a killjoy. Go for it.

Lesson No. 5: Keep your guard up. And listen to Reason. Sometimes.

Reflection: You are loved. But that doesn't mean that people will love you in the way you want them to.


I hope you have learnt, even a little. If you would like to let me know of your dating misadventure where Heart and Conscience where telling you one thing and Reason told you another Comment! It's great to hear others opinions and stories. It's how people grow.

Side note: I'm pretty sure Heart and Conscience have seen waaaay to many romantic comedies, read too much Chick Lit and are seeing each other. That is the only excuse I can give for not listening to Reason. I'm not void of reason, I don't lack it, I just don't listen. Taking note of this I am currently compiling a list of unacceptable dating behaviour for my own benefit with the help of Reason.

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