Young Couples Today Prefer "Stayovers" To Cohabitation

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College-aged couples are increasingly opting out of cohabitation in favor of sexy sleepovers.

A new study suggest that "adult sleepovers" without cohabitation are on the rise.

According to the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, an increasing number of coupled twenty-somethings have struck the perfect balance between casual dating and cohabitation. The "stayover trend" involves spending three to seven nights per week together while maintaining separate homes. Third Age: University of Missouri-Columbia Study Finds "Stayover" Relationships Trump Long-Term Commitments

This relationship model is popular among college students and seems to satisfy the potentially conflicting desires to remain romantically attached while pursuing academic and career interests. The schema also appreciates the difficulty associated with splitting up once a couple shares a home. After all, the statistics don't bode well for couples who live together before marriage. According to drphil.com, research indicates that people who live together prior to getting married are more likely get divorced. Would You Let Your Guy Own An IPad App That Makes Sex Sounds?

Despite its apparent advantages, the stayover trend also offers a considerable downside: It's hardly the most economically sensible situation. The stayover model is an expensive alternative to shacking up, especially when both parties must factor tuition fees into their monthly budgets. 

Anecdotal evidence indicates that the stayover method has been around for a while, and can yield successful results. Comedian and talk show host Joy Behar, for example, is a stayover pioneer and longtime advocate of maintaining a separate home from your partner. She and her "spousal equivalent" Steve Janowitz have been happily unmarried and living separately for some 28 years. Though Behar has not expressly commented on how often the two enjoy overnight rendezvous, it's clear that she considers Janowitz her life partner despite their lack of marital status and distinct residences. 

Weighed equally, the pros and cons of employing the stayover method point to its overall advantage. While money is a serious consideration, so is education, and if young people feel that cohabitation is a hindrance to their academic pursuits, then as far as I'm concerned, moving in together can wait until after graduation. With 60 percent of marriages ending in divorce, it's important that single adults be able to support themselves financially, and a college degree increases the likelihood of that possibility. Moreover, the divorce rate drops steeply when women wait to get married. A study entitled Cohabitation, Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage in the United States by M.D. Bramlett and W.D. Mosher shows that women who get married at age 18 have a 59 percent chance of getting divorced within 15 years, while women who wait just two more years enjoy significantly better odds. Why Do Women Date Older Men?

Love it or hate it, it's time to accept it. The stayover trend is here to stay.

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