A new study suggest that "adult sleepovers" without cohabitation are on the rise.
According to the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, an increasing number of coupled twenty-somethings have struck the perfect balance between casual dating and cohabitation. The "stayover trend" involves spending three to seven nights per week together while maintaining separate homes. Third Age: University of Missouri-Columbia Study Finds "Stayover" Relationships Trump Long-Term Commitments
This relationship model is popular among college students and seems to satisfy the potentially conflicting desires to remain romantically attached while pursuing academic and career interests. The schema also appreciates the difficulty associated with splitting up once a couple shares a home. After all, the statistics don't bode well for couples who live together before marriage. According to drphil.com, research indicates that people who live together prior to getting married are more likely get divorced. Would You Let Your Guy Own An IPad App That Makes Sex Sounds?
Despite its apparent advantages, the stayover trend also offers a considerable downside: It's hardly the most economically sensible situation. The stayover model is an expensive alternative to shacking up, especially when both parties must factor tuition fees into their monthly budgets.
Anecdotal evidence indicates that the stayover method has been around for a while, and can yield successful results. Comedian and talk show host Joy Behar, for example, is a stayover pioneer and longtime advocate of maintaining a separate home from your partner. She and her "spousal equivalent" Steve Janowitz have been happily unmarried and living separately for some 28 years. Though Behar has not expressly commented on how often the two enjoy overnight rendezvous, it's clear that she considers Janowitz her life partner despite their lack of marital status and distinct residences.