We all work hard on our careers, helping our friends and family, and take care of life maintenance. Women, particularly, are very generous with giving of themselves to others, sometimes to the detriment of their own needs and desires. We're all guilty of getting caught in routines that don't leave enough time or energy for the ones we love. Do You Give Too Much Or Too Little To Your Relationships?
YourTango Expert and Dating Coach Charreah K Jackson suggests we can use math to recalculate our time to get more love:
If you're like me, managing your desire for love with our most precious possession—time—can feel like being an amateur in an advanced juggling act. I've discovered a few simple math equations to help you increase the percentage of love in every day.
You have more time than you think! We blame being "busy" on not spending more time with the people and things we love, yet watch our favorite reality shows religiously each week. Add up how you spend your days and reclaim time wasted on watching other people's lives. Define how you will increase love in your life and add tasks to your calendar. Try booking a standing hour each week to call loved ones or to cook your honey's favorite meal. How couples spend their time together shapes the relationship—and quantity is not quality. One night completely focused on one another beats five nights of divided attention and interruptions.
After adding up where your time is spent, it's time to trim the excess for more substance. One client showed me the glaring mistake many singles make. She is a fabulous jet-setter in the fashion industry yet was down about her dating life. I had her describe her day and her ideal guy. She spent most of her days at fashion events and traveling, yet yearned for an Aidan: Carrie's laid-back, carpenter boyfriend on Sex and the City. Her professional pursuits had taken over her life and were the reason why she wasn't meeting her type. Adjusting her schedule left more time to create online dating profiles and go to places completely out of her norm. Being strategic creates more room for love. Short On Time? 10 Ways To Squeeze In More Sex
Get more love by multiplying activities and efforts. My mom recently came to town with limited time. So instead of five separate lunches, I invited friends, family and my future in-laws over for one dinner. It was an amazing time and a reminder of the power of multiplication. If you are looking to catch up with friends, invite them all to your favorite bar or restaurant. It gives people more of an incentive to see new and old faces and leaves more time (and money) for you. Instead of numerous emails to catch up with loved ones, send one fun newsletter with free sites like MadMimi.com and update them on your latest.
Because (better time management) x (putting love first) = (time to enjoy stronger relationship)
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