Naivety is a funny thing. The smartest person could be susceptible to the ‘Gullible is written on the roof,’ trick. But that’s not what I’m talking about here. What I’m talking about are the lines guys say to get into your pants.
Face it generally people like sex. Generally when people are attracted to one another they have sex – regularly for those with a little luck!
So why do guys feel the need to give you a spiel about how they are not just after sex? – when clearly they are.
This feeling is not one of abuse. It is a clear case of feeling used and leaves you vulnerable.
No matter how many times I have told myself, he’s not like the others, he usually is. I am still awaiting the day that I am proven wrong, when I wake up hungry for more, instead of thinking – shit. I’ve done it again.
And you know what. It’s not that I am a slut. It’s that when he flutters his eyelids and says, ‘we can just snuggle’ I am naïve enough to believe him.
Just like when my friend moved up the beach with a random guy because he said he was getting wet – I let you in on a secret he wasn’t being truthful.
Or that time when another friend went for a ‘walk’ and it was really an excuse to for things you use your imagination for.
You may be thinking, duh! Of course a movie at his place doesn’t mean a movie at his place – unless you’re into the porn thing.
But really it’s the sense of innocence that continually leads me into my make believe land.
Don’t get me wrong, like I said earlier I enjoy sex. And I will have fun when the time calls for it – i.e. I am horny. Therefore it may seem hypocritical when I say I am over the spiel. I want honesty. I want to hang out before we make out. Or if you are only after one thing - tell me! - I do not break like China. I hold back, only because I am sick of the spiel. I have learnt my lesson - until next time (their lines get trickier everytime!). Give me a little respect - I want it.
First blog. Long time coming. I have many examples and can elaborate on any point here! Feel free to add your stories I would love to hear that I'm not the only one falling for tricks and schemes that end with someone on their back - not that it's always a bad thing.
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