Do you remember when you were twenty years old and that beautiful twenty-year-old brunette who never once looked at you because she thought you were too young and too immature -- even though the two of you were the same age? She was the type of woman who dated men in their late twenties or early thirties.
Now that you're in your late twenties or early thirties, you still can't attract that brunette because she still wants an older man (now between thirty five to forty five years old). Well guess what? It's time for you to start dating younger women too.
understanding young women
It is a known fact that women are attracted to older men. When I say older, I don't necessarily mean that a twenty-five year old will date a man who's seventy-three. What I'm saying is that relative to their own age, women, in general, will date men that are a few years older than themselves. So if a woman is twenty, she'll date a man in his thirties. If she's thirty, she'll probably date a man in his forties and so on. Why is it that women behave in such a way? The following passage from "How to Date Young Women" by R. Don Steele best explains it:
She is primarily interested in getting a husband-to-be on the hook. It takes her a year of going steady to feel she has got him under control.
Once this is accomplished, she wants to see what she has been missing. She goes dancing and partying with "the girls" where she practices interacting with new boys and young men. After a few months, she's ready again. Her experimentation begins with another boy, her naive version of an affair. She enjoys the excitement of getting away with something so she finds one Randy RedPorsche, a singles' bar professional. He bangs her on Thursday nights when she's "out with the girls" and on Monday nights when Jimmy's "out with the boys."
When Jimmy finds out, he breaks up with her. But soon RedPorsche gets bored and trashes her. She begs Jimmy to take her back. He does. Each claims to have discovered how much they really love each other after four weeks apart. They prove it by exchanging wedding vows. In reality, they're both terrified of the single world.
If Jimmy won't take her back, she tries a brief but uninspired crack at single life. After getting screwed literally and figuratively by one user after another...she becomes as plastic as the rest and starts hanging out in pick-up bars.
Of course, after realizing that the world is not as rosy as it seems, she soon appreciates the maturity of an older man. This is where we come along.
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