Research shows that an increasing amount of the population harbors some form of herpes (cold sore, vaginal, penile, and shingles), and in women, HVP, the human papillomavirus, can sit in wait but rear its ugly, warted, head in the form of cervical cancer later. And HIV is the highest growing disease affecting black women, so it goes without saying that young women should always, always, ALWAYS use protection when they choose to have sex before marriage. That's a big "DUH," so forget what will.i.am said about condoms being tacky. Preventing yourself from contracting a sexually transmitted disease is worth losing the respect of this misogynist, and anyone else who says it's un-ladylike to own and use some condoms with a dash of spermicide, just for good measure.
But once you're married, all the condoms and spermicide should go to the wayside, right? I mean, if you're monogamous, what's the worry of getting a disease? Not so fast, muchacha. Just because you're being faithful and true doesn't always mean your partner is. I have one unfortunate friend who found out her husband cheated on her not once, BUT TWICE, because she caught a case of Trichomonas—twice. Lucky for her, 'trich' is easy to cure, but if I were her, I'd never let that fool touch me with his man parts ever again. Madame Noire: Are You A Future Wife Or Forever Wifey?
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If people in a marriage are doing what they are supposed to be doing—that is, being sexually and emotionally faithful—then who needs to get checked for an STD once you get hitched? But if there's a suspicion of infidelity or outright proof, it's in both you and your partner's best interest to get the clear from the doctor that neither of you have the cooties.