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What Your Dream Job and Your Dream Guy Have In Common

By Excelle. Posted on Jul 21st 2011.

The reasons you could be feeling let down in both the boardroom and the bedroom.

The idea of what makes a dream job changes over time, as does what a person looks for in their soul mate. In the past, one simply wanted steady work to provide food and shelter for his or her family. People also didn’t live as long, and as a result didn't have the flexibility to date a wide variety of people to find a soul mate. Usually proximity and economics trumped trivial concerns such as "love" and "things in common" when it came to choosing a mate. But times have changed, and now one's opinion plays heavily into choosing both that dream job and a life partner. Here are some reasons why finding one’s dream job can be as difficult as finding a soul mate these days.

1. An infinite number of choices can be overwhelming. With social networking, greater ease of travel, and less pressure to get married at a young age, the world of dating and courtship is more complicated than ever before. Many people think that settling down has more to do with "settling" on a person instead of finding an absolutely perfect partner (if that even exists). In terms of finding a job, a similarly wide number of choices face people as they grow out of adolescence and into adulthood. And now that the idea of choosing a job with a company out of school and staying with that company until you retire is completely antiquated, it can get even more confusing. After all, workers between the ages of 18 and 38 change jobs an average of 10 times.

2. A dream job is often about the options available to a person. Unrealistic expectations can prevent people from finding happiness with any choices they make. If someone wants a soul mate to have the looks of a model, the education of a Rhodes scholar, and the bank account of Bill Gates, they probably will be disappointed when that doesn't happen. In terms of finding a dream job, the same problem with standards applies. If your dream job is to be a professional athlete, model, rock star, or astronaut, sheer numbers can make that impossible. For those who can't find something they like doing that they're also good at, a dream career can be as difficult to find as a so-called perfect partner.

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