There's a new study that finds sexual anxiety and a lack of concern about consequences, i.e., pregnancy and STDs, are what make men and women more likely to cheat on their partners. What Drives Men Away And What Attracts Them
Researchers found women who worry about their ability to stay aroused and orgasm are 8 percent more likely to stray, and men who worry about impotence and premature ejaculation are 6 percent more likely to stray. What Is Love Without Loyalty? Why Devotion Trumps Passion
In the study, more than 400 men and women were surveyed, answering questions about their relationships and sexual behavior, and 23 percent of men and 19 percent of women were found to have cheated on their current partner.
It seems odd that sexual insecurities would cause someone to cheat, but lead researcher Kristin Mark says there may be less pressure to perform in bed when engaging with someone who doesn't know your sexual history.
Mark and her team call for partners to worry less about what their partner is doing outside of the home and more on how he or she behaves in the bedroom.
Now, we all know that saying you should worry less is a lot easier than actually worrying less. So, how can you overcome your insecurities?
According to AskMen, you first need to identify the problem so that it seems more manageable, and then you need work to invalidate that problem—focus on the positives and not the negatives. And, as a rule of thumb, never compare yourselves to others. What works for some people doesn't necessarily work for everyone.
Once you do this, it will be easier to move on, pushing you to focus on your strengths rather than what you believe to be your weaknesses in bed.
How do you deal with your sexual insecurities?