And other burning questions answered by Charles J. Orlando.
On June 16, for an hour and 45 minutes, Charles J. Orlando, author of The Problem With Women is...Men and a YourTango Expert took over our Facebook page to dish out straight-up advice on your most burning questions. Here are some highlights. And if you are sad you missed out, then dry your eyes. We will be inviting him back on July 14 at 1pm EST.
A lot of our Facebook friends had questions about cheating: Why do people cheat? Should I take back a cheater? Should I work harder so my boyfriend doesn't cheat? And so many more. To all of the cheating questions, Charles had this to say: "To those asking me about cheating and cheaters: People don't cheat because of who YOU are... they cheat because of who THEY ARE NOT. Cheating is the ultimate betrayal. My advice: Learn what you can from the experience and move on. It's not that cheaters don't change their spots... it's because why put more effort into someone who sold you the f*ck out? (Just sayin')."
That Charles, he doesn't pull any punches. Does he?
A question came in from the lovely (if Facebook pictures can be believed), T.J., she asked why guys say they don't want a relationship, but then they call and say they want to see you? Well, Charles thinks women shouldn't put up with that behavior. "A guy pulling that stunt is doing two things: hedging his bets and not committing. He gets all the benefits of a relationship—love, affection, sex, YOUR time and dedication—but he then has the "out" of being 'honest' with you in that he's just 'not into a real/full relationship right now.' The truth: BULLSHIT! (yeah, I said it... now all men will continue to hate on me... lol). I've often written that if he likes you and wants to be WITH you, you'll KNOW it... and if he doesn't, you'll be left wondering all the time if he does. So, if you're unclear about how he feels, ask him directly. If you don't get a direct and clear response... that is ALSO an answer (just not the one you're looking for)."
Additionally, in response to several questions about to know if a guy likes you, Charles pointed out, " If he likes you, you'll KNOW it... and if he doesn't, you'll be left wondering all the time if he does. So, if you're unclear about how he feels, ask him directly. If you don't get a direct and clear response... that is ALSO an answer (just not the one you're looking for)."
He also responded to a sassy fan, who wanted to know why men had penises. Charles says he knows, but to find out the answer, you'll have to like our page and then click here to see. Warning: It's spicy!
Charles also posted some video responses that we just loved. They are linked below, but in order to view them you have to like his Facebook page, The Problem With Women Is...Men and the YourTango Facebook page. Enjoy!
- "I'm 28, he's 18. Can it work?"
- "Is he married or just not into me?"
- "I just met a guy on Facebook... should I meet him? Date him?"
- "My man is depressed. How can I help him?"
- "Is he married? Just not that into me?"
What did you think of Charle's advice? Is it off-base, off-putting, just right? Let us know.