Wedding Survival Guide: Dos And Don'ts Of The Big Day


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Getting married this summer? Say "I do" to these tips.

One thing I learned before I got married is that nobody loves to talk about weddings more than women who just got married. They’ll grab on to any socially acceptable opportunity to relive their experiences. Now, I’m one of those women who’s full of tips on how to get through your wedding day. One day, maybe you can pass a few of these dos and don’ts on to the next girl when you go to blab about your wedding. The Frisky: How Going To Vegas For A Bachelorette Party Made Me Question Everything

Assume that something will go wrong. It’s going to happen. Accepting that fact will make your life easier. Our venue got changed the day our invitations were mailed. Fortunately, it was moved to a church across the street. We sent out notes alerting guests to the change, and everything went fine. It wasn’t that big of a deal, and it felt good to get that mini-disaster out of the way. The Frisky: 5 Celebs Who Tied The Knot In Weird Wedding Attire

Have an engagement photo session with your photographer. Even if you have no intention of submitting your pics to the local paper, it’s good practice. You’ll get to know your photographer, and you’ll get the hang of those lovey-dovey shots with your spouse-to-be.

Put up with crappy sales service from wedding vendors. I decided not to go to one bridesmaid dress store because the lady on the phone was so bitchy to me. I wanted the experience to be as pleasant as possible. (Note: This does not give you carte blanche to be a bridezilla. It means you should patronize companies that make you feel at ease.)

Spend money on things for your wedding day because magazines tell you to do so. If you love your perfume, you don’t need to get a special new one for the special day. If white wine is your favorite drink, no need to freak about a signature cocktail. The Frisky: 5 Bridesmaids Favors That Aren't Totally Cliché

Have a master guest list with addresses on hand, in hard copy and online. It will be invaluable when it comes to writing thank you notes. Keep the hard copy in a heavy-duty envelope, because you’ll be carrying it around and taking it out again and again. I kept mine with a stash of stationery, stamps, and the little booklet I used to keep track of who gave me what.

Worry about matching your thank you note stationery to your invitations unless you must. I’m not sure who came up with the rule that every goddamn thing in a wedding, from the save-the-date cards to the invites to the seating cards to the programs to the stationery, has to match. Maybe it was a crazy person.

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