Rachel Russo, Matchmaker and Relationship Coach, explains this behavior:
"There is definite appeal in camaraderie. For many women, it is nice to see a man who can make a real commitment and be there for another person. Male friendships can touch a woman's heart—especially if the man has commitment-phobic tendencies. It is truly beautiful to see the growing rapport among these men, as they are often willing to put their life on the lines to protect their friends."
Being in the uniformed dating trenches, however, isn't always easy. Because of the risky nature of their work, their return home can be challenging. When the uniform comes off, oftentimes so does the persona. I've discovered that beneath the extraordinary armor are ordinary guys, sensitive people who want someone to lean on. 5 Types of Guys Women Can't Resist
"I love my husband," said one military wife when asked about her relationship with a Corporal in the Army. "Like anyone, we have our fair share of ups and downs. But, being married to someone with a dangerous job takes tremendous effort. It's almost like living with two different people—my hubby the super hero, and my hubby the mush."
Dr. Raymond says this isn't uncommon. "These men, who are the epitome of adulthood and strength, may need taking care of once the uniform is removed. And, while this may trigger maternal instincts in his woman, it is a stark contrast to the reliable and dependable guy he is in uniform."
While dating these guys is exhilarating, committing to the lifestyle for the long haul should be carefully considered. According to recent AP statistics, divorce rates in the military have "risen due to the two ongoing wars... [In 2008 alone] there were an estimated 10,200 failed marriages in the active duty Army… that's 3.5 percent among more than 287,000 married troops in the Army." How To Keep A Military Marriage Strong
To ensure you steer clear of this danger zone, here are some tools I've used for my own husband in uniform, that you can apply when playing house with Sergeant Sexy: