* In the overlapping area, list activities (or non-activities) you'd both like to do together.
* In the non-intersecting parts of your circles, put the activities that are important to you but that your partner doesn't want to share.
* The consider how your mutual needs can fit together.
* Are you willing to compromise on activities and join in?
* Can you take some time for yourself and let your partner do something alone?
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This exercise will give you a clear picture of a shared vacation that takes into account the needs of each traveler and prevents unpleasant conflicts from erupting in paradise. It also creates a framework for setting realistic plans for your trip and will raise everyone's awareness about the amount of time they'll have to achieve their individual travel goals.
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3. Plan with the end in mind.
At the end of the day, the truth is that "stuff happens." Sometimes you do have to deal with travel challenges, but the better-prepared you are to avoid them, the greater your chances of arriving home from your vacation feeling like you've had the time of your life.
You will be better prepared if you have a list of contingency plans to engage in if the vacation starts to turn south. Once you've selected a destination, do a little research on all of the alternative activities you can participate in while you're there. Then create your "plan B" to handle rainy days, sick kids, hangover mornings, the need for solo time spent apart from a partner and anything else that may come along.
By being prepared for these potential problems you greatly increase your chances that they won't happen, and as a result you have the vacation experience that you really wanted.
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Creating a "perfect" vacation does take a bit of good luck, but when you set out on an adventure with a plan in place for troubles and a realistic set of expectations for the trip, you're more likely to come back feeling like you have achieved your goals and that the vacation was a success.