An Introduction to Philematology


An Introduction to Philematology

The origin of the kiss remains a mystery, but the nourishment and oral satisfaction that kissing provides may well be linked to the long history of prehistoric mothers who, through the act of ‘mouth feeding,’ transferred pre-masticated food to their infants. No surprise then that in several languages the word for kissing is synonymous with pre-mastication and the word “sweet” is the epithet most commonly applied to kisses. Freud believed that our desire to kiss is a subconscious drive back to the suckling experience at the mother’s breast. Certainly the first and most loving kiss most of us remember was in the hands of the woman we called mom.

It is no surprise that kissing is good for you. Studies show that increasing the frequency and, dare I say the intensity of kissing in your relationship, is found to lower your stress levels and increase your satisfaction with both your relationship and your life. Another study showed that a little kiss before you leave home may actually save your life. Men who kissed their wives before leaving for work were in fewer car accidents and were in a higher income bracket than men who avoided this domestic ritual. Someone once said that kisses are like tears, the only real ones are the ones you can’t hold back; so in the pursuit of a better and more perfect study of philemagtology – don’t.

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