When in comes to sex, Americans actually do know what they are talking about.
In the twenty years since Salt-n-Pepa released their 1991 single "Let's Talk About Sex" it seems that Americans have in fact been doing just that: talking about sex—about how it is, and how it could be, how it was, and of course, how it should be! All that talking seems to have paid off!
According to a new survey conducted by Zestra and YourTango.com, when asked to answer questions about female pleasure and the health benefits of sex, the majority of men and women responded correctly. Way to go!
"Knowing your own body and what makes you tick is an important part of sexual satisfaction," said Rachel Braun Scherl, President, Semprae Laboratories, Inc., makers of Zestra. "We believe that the increased comfort with the conversation about sexual satisfaction is leading to great progress for men and women today."
The interesting thing, however, is that only 41 percent of the respondents answered that they were confident in their ability to separate fact from fiction. What's more, the survey also found that people are even less confident in their compatriots: 79 percent have strong doubts about the average American's knowledge regarding women's sexual anatomy and what turns a woman on.
Despite misgivings about other people's carnal knowledge and in spite of the lack of confidence in our own, turns out that Americans do know what's going on between the sheets—even if they don't know they know it.
"We've seen a lot of misinformation floating around about female pleasure, orgasm and sex in general," said Andrea Miller, YourTango's CEO and founder. "Contrary to what many people think about our sex-saturated culture, we are pleased to see it's actually informing an open and honest dialogue."
So the next time you find yourself with a lackluster lover, don't be shy in expressing your needs—because, come on, he or she should know better than that!
So what did respondents get right? Here are the highlights:
- Length of sex. For the average couple sex lasts 7 – 8 minutes.
- Orgasm. On average, women take about four times as long to reach an orgasm as men and about 30 percent of women regularly orgasm during sex.
- Health benefits. From a stronger immune system to a better night's sleep, the female orgasm has proven health benefits.
Where they faltered:
- Simultaneous orgasms. Almost half of survey respondents said 25 percent of couples regularly orgasm together; in reality, only 3 - 5 percent do.
- Use of lubricants. 19 percent of respondents said that young, healthy women don't need to use lubricants; in reality, 100 percent of women would benefit from using lubricants.
- Heart disease. Having sex may lower the risk of heart disease in men, but the same hasn't been shown for women.
Interested in separating the fact and fiction for yourself? Here's the full list of the T/F questions we asked in our survey:
Women know how to have an orgasm from the time they are in the womb. (T)
If a woman uses a vibrator she will become addicted to it and won't be able to orgasm without it. (F)
Young, healthy women don't need to use lubricants during sex. (F)
About 25 percent of couples regularly orgasm together when they have sex. (F)
About half of women regularly orgasm during sex. (F)
For the average couple, sex usually lasts less than 10 minutes. (T)
The average women needs about an hour of stimulation to orgasm. (F)
On average, women take about four times as long as men to reach orgasm. (T)
Clinically-proven products to enhance desire and arousal in women are only available through a prescription. (F)
True or false: the following health benefits have been linked to female orgasm:
A stronger immune system (T)
A higher pain threshold (T)
Faster hair growth (F)
A lowered risk of depression (T)
Less risk of sunburn (F)
Stronger bones (T)
Less risk of contracting STDs (F)
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