2. Take long walks together. One couple with a 2-1/2 year-old daughter pointed out that sitting face-to-face made it easy to misinterpret body language and facial expressions. Instead, they would discuss serious topics (like whether to buy a car) while taking their baby out in her stroller.
3. Sync up your calendars. Go ahead and treat your marriage like a business partnership. Get together once a week to make sure that your schedules match, especially if both of you work. Doing this will prevent misunderstandings about who's on baby duty and the dates of doctor's appointments.
4. Work on your friendship. Sex and romance are important, of course, but remember that boosting a marriage goes beyond going on a date night once a month. The Bringing Baby Home program, where couples take 12-hour parenting sessions, suggests that couples spend 20 minutes a day talking to each other about things besides the baby. Talk with each other about politics, TV shows, or current events so that you'll continue to have common interests aside from your child.
5. Consider counseling. Counseling's not just for couples who are on the brink of divorce. Pre-delivery courses and post-baby counseling programs can teach your constructive problem solving, while group meetings can remind you that you're not alone in struggling. Looking for a counselor in your area? Check out the YourTango Experts database, which lets you search for relationship professionals by type, location and experience.
Did having children help or hurt your marriage? What tips do you have to offer to expecting couples?