I mentioned this to Kropf, who was quick to point out that all those things could be discovered by praying with your significant other in a group setting, or as I like to call it, a "chaperoned" setting where the dynamic is different, such as a Bible study or a church service.
"Ideally," she said, "the relationship you have with your spouse should be radically different than the ones you've had with all the other people you've dated. Rushing to become intimate, physically or emotionally, with every single person, steals from the exclusivity that should be a part of marriage."
At the end of our conversation, I asked Karen about the way prayer has affected her own marriage. She said that over the past nine and a half years she and her husband have been married, prayer has consistently helped draw them closer together.
"When you're married, you become a lot of things," Karen says, "like roommates and business partners. But praying together taps into this other element—this being one flesh. It's really hard to describe." 7 Things Men Love About Intimacy (Besides Sex)
As someone who has never done more than pray over dinner with a guy, I can certainly say that she's given me something to think about.
What are your thoughts and experiences? Have you ever prayed with someone you were dating? Do you think prayer is too intense and intimate to be done outside of marriage?