The Crazy Making Ex: Nightstands, Viagra and Sacred Moments

At the core of the passive aggressive man is the endless attempts to destroy his wife’s spirit. I know this sounds harsh and if you’ve lived it, it is harsh. It is also true. The Passive Aggressive Man is All About Control

And if you are a woman who has a deep appreciation for sex, especially sex with the man she loves, what better way to break her spirit than to deny her the pleasure of an intimate relationship with you? And when it came to sex, my ex was talented at withholding. LUST: Damned if You Give in, Damed If you Don't

Our daily routine was average. We woke early, zipped the husband into his flight suit, pulled the boys out of bed, wrapped them in clothing, filled their tummies with a warm breakfast and waved them off on the school bus with smiles on our faces.

Off to work the ex would go, while I stayed home cleaning, cooking, dusting and vacuuming. We had it all, a great income, a nice home, two cars; two kids who would make any parent proud and no sex.

My ex was everything; he was generous, helpful, grateful, respectful, tender, attentive AND asexual. As he explained to me after the marriage, “I’ve just never seen what the big deal is about sex.” Something he failed to share with me before marriage. When a Husband Doesn't Want Sex

Back to daily life…I had a routine, one that comforted me and helped me wind down before the kids and ex came home in the afternoons. I would retreat to our bed, light a few candles on my nightstand and read for an hour. It was my respite after a long day of what I used to call, “earning my keep.” He paid the bills; I earned my keep by keeping the house ship-shape.

The problem with the disparity in our libidos had been discussed on a few occasions during the marriage. There would be long, loving talks, promises of change, a few weeks of doing something different and then back to sex 4 times a year.

Finally during our 11th year of marriage I put my foot down. Told him to see a doctor, what kind of Doctor I didn’t care just see someone who can help figure out the problem. He chose to see a Urologist who found he was bankrupt in the testosterone department. Curing Low Testosterone: Pills or Porn?

Well then! We had an answer and where there is such a physical ailment there is a medical solution. The good doctor started him on testosterone injections and life at our house changed. He was randy as hell, I was happy as hell. For 3 weeks he had one injection a week. For 3 weeks he was all about getting some and I was enjoy the hell out of all the attention his need for “some” was getting me. I did so love sex with that man!