I'd hate to think that a single one of my fellow womankind is letting body issues stop them from boning like the babelicious man-candy we are! So, I sat down with YourTango Expert and intimacy and sex counselor, Mary Jo Rapini, MEd, LPC. As you might imagine, we had quite the time discussing all the ways sex can satisfy a lady like nothing else! And it just affirmed that there are better things to do in life than waste time worrying about weight. Here are five reasons having sex is better than being skinny.
1. Sexual Healing: Forget an apple a day, an orgasm a week keeps the doctor away. According to our Rapini, sex boosts the immune system and cardiovascular health, helps people with diabetes heal wounds, fights aging by keeping your hormones in balance, cures headaches, prevents the vagina from atrophying, alleviates depression and anxiety, improves cognition, increases blood flow to the brain, skyrockets your self-esteem, and ultimately expands and extends your quality of life.
Plus, as Rapini also pointed out in her essay, Take The Orgasm, "A study by Beverly Whipple, a professor emeritus at Rutgers University and a famed sexologist and author, found that when women masturbated to orgasm 'the pain tolerance threshold and pain detection threshold increased significantly by 74.6 percent and 106.7 percent respectively.'"
Amazing! So, ask not what you can do for sex, but what sex can do for you.
2. Variety Is The Spice Of Life: The real problem with this "thin is in" argument is the idea that that there is only one ideal kind of body, when we all know some men like blondes, some like short girls, some like sexy librarian types, and some like a big beautiful woman like me. It's unfair to deny nature and men the kind of woman they're attracted to just because the media, or a mirror, or those catty remarks we overhear make us feel like anything less than a temple of va-voom.
Rapini adds, "Men are not as picky as women are. They basically want a good proportion, but they don't care if it's a size 14 or a 2. They're looking at the waist hip ratio. I tell all my patients is all you need to do is put a belt on and you will be attracting them like crazy!"