Obviously don’t make anything up (i.e., don’t say you went running if you really didn’t), but proactively think of something positive about yourself that you want the other person to know, even if he asks a vague question.
4. Find a “conversation bridge”: Find a bridge to help you learn more about him, based on the last thing you said (“So, what kind of exercise do YOU like?” or “How about YOU, do you have some college friends you still spend time with?”). Everyone likes talking about themselves.
5. Be fun: If there’s a lull in the conversation flow, try to be fun and spark some banter, which makes someone enjoy talking to you. Pick a neutral, third party topic, and make a comment (or ask a question) about it. For example, “Hey, did you happen to see Letterman last night? He did the Top Ten Reasons for things overheard waiting in line to see Avatar…. Guess what #1 was?” Asking a person to guess something is a great way to keep conversation interesting. (Avoid boring questions such as: How was work? Was the traffic bad?).
6. Flatter him: Make someone feel good about himself by acting happy that he called, and be sure to give positive feedback on his conversation skills. For example, tell him, “I had a rough day at work, but your call cheered me up!” or “Oh, that’s an interesting question!”
7. Know when the party’s over: End the conversation quickly when you sense the energy level drooping. But blame it on an external factor rather than sounding bored. For example, “Oh, I have to walk my dog now, he’s scratching at the door… I’m so sorry, I was really enjoying talking to you. Let’s speak again soon!”
8. What Never To Do: While talking on the phone, never chew food or gum, never go to the bathroom or flush a toilet, even if you mute the phone (don’t risk a mute malfunction!), and never multi-task while you’re on the phone by checking email, loading the dishwasher, etc. (give someone your full attention: it makes a huge difference!)
First impressions are very tricky, whether by phone, email, text, or face-to-face.To find and attract the mate you really want, or simply to make better first impressions in business and with new friends, read “Have Him At Hello: Confessions From 1,000 Guys About What Makes Them Fall in Love… Or Never Call Back.”
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