After getting together with someone new, how long does it take before that person's quirky mannerisms become super annoying? The answer used to be seven years, as in "the seven-year itch," but a recent study has revealed that the shift actually happens about three years into a relationship. 5 Simple Actions That Reignite Passion
The survey, which was commissioned by Warner Brothers to promote the film Hall Pass, asked 2,000 British adults in serious relationships to determine when they started taking their partner for granted. Sixty-seven percent of people surveyed answered that after about 36 months, the traits they once found endearing had become irksome. No Time for Date Night? Try a Mini-Date and Keep the Passion Burning
By endearing qualities, we don't mean compassion for the homeless or artistic talent. Ambivalently cute things, like an overly practical (read: boring) wardrobe, or workaholic tendencies ("so neurotic! so adorable!"), end up breaking the spell of blind infatuation. In order, the top 10 "everyday niggles and passion-killers" from the survey include: weight gain/lack of exercise, a bad attitude toward money, antisocial working hours, hygiene problems, family drama, lack of romance, too much alcohol, snoring and antisocial bedtime habits, lapsed fashion sense, and gross bathroom habits. Can A Trial Separation Ever Re-Spark The Flame?
None of these little dealbreakers are new, though. People have been chubby, drunk and unfashionable for as long as we can remember. The reason modern relationships have a shorter passion phase, one could argue, is that they've become susceptible to a money troubles and consequently long working hours. We've become so preoccupied with day-to-day responsibilities, that just 16 percent of Brits who are in relationships longer than three years said they have sex more than three times a week, compared to 52 percent of the people who were in relationships under three years.
Our career lives have taken such a toll on our relationships, that it's becoming more commonplace to take a weekend break from a relationship to save it, says Judi James, who conducted the survey. About a third of people in long-term relationships admitted that they designate around two evenings a month as "pass days," where either person can have fun by themselves. This can mean anything from traveling solo to spending an entire day at the golfing range to a weekend's respite from a partner's snoring.
How long does it take for you to start getting tired of your partner? Do you and your partner have "pass days" for taking a break from each other?