- Comment on your spouse's posts. Even if it's just a "Like," let your spouse know that you're paying attention to what he has to say. Who knows, maybe you'll even find that conversation on a Facebook wall is a little easier than face-to-face.
- Flirt with your spouse. Spice things up by posting a flirtatious message on his wall, or sending him a steamy private message. (It bears repeating that the steamy messages should always be private. No one else wants to read that, especially your teenage daughter or his boss.) Use Facebook as a way to sprinkle little messages throughout the day or throughout the week, just to let him know you're thinking of him or to put a sexy thought of you in his head when you're not together.
- Show your spouse you trust him. In other words, don't freak out if he friends his 7th grade girlfriend or his junior prom date. Even more recent exes may be fine for him to friend, as long as the ex understands and respects the boundaries. Facebook is by its nature a place where people reconnect with their first love or that cute girl who sat in the back row in algebra class. That doesn't mean those same feelings are present today. Give your spouse the benefit of the doubt (unless he gives you a reason not to), and it will likely only strengthen his love for and attraction to you.
- Make it a point to affirm your spouse on your wall at least once a week. It can be as simple as "My husband made the best meatloaf tonight!" or "Can't wait to go out to dinner with my husband!" Not only does your spouse feel affirmed, but you're also serving as an example of what a good marriage looks like. Sadly, some of your friends may not have good role models in which to pattern their marriage after, and the way you talk about your spouse may help someone else's marriage now or in the future, as well.
- See what others are saying about and to your spouse. This can be a good exercise if you're not feeling particularly fond of your spouse at the moment. Looking at your spouse through someone else's eyes can be a good way to remember why you fell in love with him in the first place, and can help you defuse a potential time bomb before it has a chance to explode.
- Use Facebook as a springboard for communicating off-line, as well. Sharing what your friends are doing and saying can be a great way to get a conversation started with your spouse, even progressing to deeper talks about issues, ethics or "what if" hypothetical situations.
What about you? Has Facebook damaged your marriage? Are you using it to help your marriage?