5. You don't have to work to have good sex
I thought sex was based solely on chemistry, and if the sex wasn't immediately mind-blowing, it wasn't meant to be. However, I've learned that's an incredibly narrow-minded view. Okay, maybe if you encounter a guy who, like, doesn't know he has to be hard to enter you (yes, this has happened to someone I know), it should be on to the next. Open communication is absolutely essential to have a dynamic, exciting sex life. If you can't talk to someone about your fantasies or your needs, you really don't need to be getting intimate with them.
4. Blow jobs are icky
Oh, yes. I was one of those girls. The idea of sticking a penis in my mouth used to elicit a strong hell to the no from me. I was afraid of the taste, of the smell, if I would be good at it, etc. Blow jobs are not rocket science (and a good guy is more than willing to give you constructive feedback to improve your performance). And as long as he showers regularly, you shouldn't be gagging with disgust while down there.
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3. Guys always want sex
I thought I would constantly be in these awkward situations where all I wanted to do was kiss and cuddle while a dude would be dying to go further. And, yes, of course I've encountered the douchebag who didn't want to take no for an answer, but most mature guys value a mutually enjoyable, consensual experience, and if you encounter one who doesn't, then it's on to the next.
2. Good sex always ends in orgasm
I think there is far too much emphasis on orgasms. In my experience, orgasms are more like sprinkles on a chocolate frosted chocolate cupcake – a delightful little extra treat, but far from necessary.
1. Sex isn't fun
Oh my god, sex is awesome. While I wouldn't call myself a sex addict, my ideal weekend with my boo definitely involves a few rounds of horizontal tango. Three years ago, though? I would have balked at the idea that sex was anything more than an arduous chore, something that I would only do because I didn't want to be seen as "damaged goods." And while I would never condone having sex before you're ready, it's really important to have a clear perspective of what sex actually is like before you decide to have it or not have it. College Candy: Sex In The News: Monogamy, Casual Sex And Victim-Shaming
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