4. Just apologize, even if you aren't sorry. My husband tried to do this once, and I immediately asked him why he was lying to me. Even in the middle of a fight, no one wants to be patronized or appeased. As much as it sucks that my husband isn't sorry for leaving his socks on the floor, I'd rather know the truth than have him lie. Also, why does he need to be sorry for putting his socks on the floor? I'm not sorry for leaving all the lights on in the house and I probably won't ever be. I think, in the grand scheme of things, we can both manage without false apologies. Advice: 9 Things I Wish I'd Known Before I Marriage
5. Let him know how you feel: Actually, sometimes it's better to suck it up. I used to let my husband know how I felt about every single little thing he did and that caused a lot of problems. Feelings are fleeting. Somedays I am irritated when he insists we watch NOVA on PBS for three hours straight and other days I'm charmed. The problem isn't him, it's my fleeting feelings. Getting control of my emotions and learning what's worth discussing and bringing up and what's worth considering before sharing is an ongoing effort for me. But letting my husband know how I feel about everything, is definitely not the way to go.
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