Does her example, then, make it right for most women to quit their jobs in preparation for a wedding? In my opinion, no. But we have to all acknowledge that Kate is not most women. She is about to enter into a situation requiring etiquette training, media training, an education in royal history and current British policy. After she and William are married, she'll begin incorporating service (both domestic and abroad) into her schedule, traveling as Diana did so famously to parts of the world that required her personal and public attention.
She will (and my apologies to her parents and their company for saying this) make a far greater impact on the world from this day forward than she did in any prior vocation. It's my hope that she'll incorporate her passions for photography and art into that future so that she's not just the face of her marriage to William but has her own distinct role in the royal family.
"I mean, we wouldn't expect Michelle Obama to keep her job," one friend said.
"Good point," I admitted. "She likely couldn't. It would be a security nightmare for that company."
I decided the issue was her timing. If Kate had quit her job after marrying William, we'd add her to the list of many women around the world who've done the same. Once buoyed by an additional income, they're free to quit the work they've perhaps never enjoyed and pursue a passion. This is common. We can accept this. Some women, I'm sure, aspire to this. MyDaily: Is "Marital Leave" The Key To A Happy Marriage?
But how many New York Times wedding announcements read "Until two weeks ago, the bride-to-be was an oncologist, a position she left to prepare for her wedding"? Zero. Trust me. I searched.
Quitting your job to prep for a wedding makes it seem as though the details of the tulle—and the trappings—are more important than your career or your future. It comes across as an awfully giddy declaration: I don't need to work, I'm getting married!
In the case of Kate Middleton, the details of the wedding and what immediately follows will become her career and her future; she doesn't need to work. In the case of anyone else out there who makes the choice, I'd be careful about using the "Well, Kate Middleton did it ..." line.
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