By Jennifer Amato — Written on Jan 26, 2011
Introducing an erotic product into your relationship such as a vibrator or bondage kit can improve your sex life and keep the sparks flying. You may have toyed with the idea of using one with your partner, but not know how approach your partner about this new level of intimacy. If you and your partner are comfortable with one another, but are not sure how he or she would react to the idea of using a sex toy, here are some ways that may help you introduce sex toy play into your relationship.
If you have never purchased a sex toy before, I would suggest browsing through several adult toy web sites. Many of the adult toy web sites offering product reviews from customers such as yourself. Looking at adult toy sites can also help you understand the different types of toys that are available and may even have an entire section devoted to sex toys for couples. For example, there are vibrating erection rings with a clitoral stimulator attached that are worn by the male to enhance the sensations for both partners during sexual intercourse. If a vibrating erection ring does not seem right for you, check out some of the more traditional vibrators that are simple to use such as the Erotic Explorer. If you want more assistance, but do not feel comfortable enough to go to a physical store, contact customer service. The customer service department are accustomed to helping customers that are new to purchasing adult toys and can provide helpful suggestions on what sex toy is right for you and your partner. Make sure you purchase from a web site that has a phone number available as opposed to just an email. Therefore, you can also contact customer service directly and avoid waiting for email replies.
Once you become more knowledgeable about different sex toys, bring up the topic to your partner when you are in a comfortable atmosphere. Sit down with your partner and bring up the idea of taking your relationship to a different level. Let him or her know how you would like to know how he or she feels incorporating a sex toy into the relationship. Make sure him or her does not feel offended and reassure them that it is not about them not being a good lover. It is about sharing something intimate and special together. If he or she has any questions, let them know you have been doing some research on some products.
If your partner is willing to try it out, build the excitement of the experience by shopping for one together. Look on the computer with your partner and browse the different products that you have done research on. Make sure you let your partner have some input on what products they would like to try. You may want to try several different types. Maybe try a traditional vibe, a small clitoral vibe such as a i vibe pocket rocket, and an erection ring. I would also suggest buying a personal lubricant to use with your sex toys to make sure the experience is a pleasurable and comfortable one.
Once you have placed your order for the sex toys, plan a special night together when you have time to try out your new purchase. Create a comfortable atmosphere in which you and your partner can fully relax. Bringing a sex toy into your relationship can strengthen the bond in your relationship and bring you and your partner closer together.
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