By Krissy Dolor
A deadline for love? According to Dr. Diana Kirschner, it’s possible! This love expert, media psychologist, and author has helped both singles and couples on their road to love. Based on clinical research and personal experience, Love in 90 Days guides you along your journey to self-discovery with good advice, and of course, tough love. The author also addresses common mistaken beliefs about relationships and dating, and shares stories from women who have been successful in their own 90-day path to a great relationship.
How can you find love in 90 days?
Love in 90 Days has step-by-step instructions, checklists, and homework assignments to aid those needing a little help in the romance department, as well as tips from women who have done it themselves. Cupid caught up with Dr. Kirschner via email last month to talk about the book. Take a look at what she had to say:
How did you come up with the ‘deadline,’ so to speak, of finding love in 90 days?
Because over the years, as I was helping more and more women find true love, they were able to do it faster and faster! Ninety days to change your love life became a real, doable possibility, and a reality for many women.
Are people skeptical of your claim that anyone can find love in 90 days?
Yes. But once I start outlining all the different steps you can use in the book to handle any dead-end-dating patterns and find lots of terrific men, they are convinced that it is possible!
There are exercises to use to stop yourself from being a “hermit,” or getting involved with guys too fast (the “Flame-Out”) so that it blows up in your face, and many more. I describe 13 of these Deadly Dating Patterns and what to do about them. And then we have dozens of ways to meet great guys, including ways to optimize your profile so that it comes up first on online dating sites when men search! Also, places to go that are loaded with great guys where there is very little competition — and much more.
I have had women go from zero guys to having 200 to choose from!
Here’s one secret: skyrocket the number of people you meet online by simply changing your profile a bit every day — you’ll go to the top of the search engine on the site, and hundreds more will see you.
While writing your book, what was the most surprising piece of research you came across that you wanted to share with your readers?
That if you don’t recover from the depression of a break up by 16 weeks there is decreased brain activity in regions associated with emotion, motivation, and attention.
The paperback now has a chapter entitled ‘Dating Games Men Play.’ What made you decide to include a new chapter – and a chapter on this topic in particular?