Is being overweight a way of avoiding intimacy?
By Dr. Jeanette Raymond. Posted on .
“I thought weight was the stumbling block that prevented me from having intimate relationships. After trying everything under the sun to loose weight and hating myself for not being able to get thinner I went to work with Dr. Raymond. It totally stressed me out. I discovered that I was never comfortable with relationships. I was either taking care of people or feeling dominated. I was suspicious of affection and closeness. It made me feel that I would have to give something of myself that I didn’t want to give or that I would be trampled over and hurt like so many times before. My weight was a convenient way of keeping people at bay.
Dr. Raymond never let up for a minute. It made me feel like she really cared about me working on my issues so I could allow myself to risk relationships. I am much more comfortable receiving love and affection. I have developed good boundaries so that I don’t feel pulled to take care of others or forced into submitting in order to keep a connection. Dr. Raymond has helped me master my emotions so that I can have a relationship on equal terms. I now trust myself to know what is genuine and what isn’t.Thirty-four year old divorced, stressed woman.
