Does Winning The Lottery Ruin Relationships?

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The relationship pros and cons of winning the Mega Millions lottery.

Winning the lottery is something we all fantasize about. And though many of us believe scoring the Mega Millions would solve all our problems, there's a chance we could be wrong.

There are already too many stories of couples and individuals whose lives have fallen apart after hitting the jackpot. While the chances of winning the lottery might be slim, the lessons here are good for all to note, as increased money from a raise or inheritance could upset still waters just like the Mega Millions. Here we take a look at the pros and cons of a couple winning the lottery, exploring the possibility of how lottery winnings could ruin your love life.


Change your lifestyle

Are you living paycheck to paycheck? Does your or your partner's car break down for reasons unbeknownst to every mechanic in town? No worries. With $380 million (this week's jackpot), you won't have to worry about the late fees that come with not paying your rent on time. In fact, your winnings might even push you and your partner out of your apartment into a condo or house. If your car has had it's run, buy a new one. Heck, buy two! Winning the lottery affords you a lot of opportunities to change the way you live, and to stop worrying so much about money. How To Tackle Money Matters In A Relationship

Pay off old debts

Many young adults continue to pay off their student loans years after they've graduated. Though a college education is priceless, the payments are burdensome and it can limit what you spend on other aspects of your life. A lottery win could get your loans all taken care of, especially if you've charged them to a credit card. If you and your partner take care of your loans, restore your credit, then you have more money to invest into your future. What is better than securing a happily ever after with your significant other?

Give back

Simply put, it's important to give back. You've now come into all this money, and what better way to spend it than on the less fortunate? A lot of lottery winners donate a portion of their winnings to local charities, and if you have kids, this can instill great values. As YourTango Expert and marriage therapist Melanie Gorman says: "Agreeing to give to charities as a couple is one of those 'shared values' areas that is an important indicator of a relationship's health and potential. When two people share this belief, it's a good sign that in your relationship that you'll enjoy a nice balance of giving and receiving (of their time, money, efforts), which is helps keep life in harmony."



When you're not used to having a lot of money, you suddenly become anxious to spend it on any and everything you couldn't afford before. It is a luxury, but the money can easily inflict stress and distrust on your relationship. For example, you or your partner may buy something without consulting one another, thus leading to a disagreement over wasteful spending. You could begin questioning if he/she is reliable, and if you aren't careful about your spending, the two of you may very well go bankrupt. A tip for avoiding this unfortunate outcome? Consult a financial advisor. If the two of you weren't financially responsible before, you can't expect to be now, and if you don't want to lose everything or each other, this is a necessary step to take.

Insincere relationships

Everyone wants to be friends with the people who have a lot of money. Now that you and your partner are millionaires, you'll find you're getting phone calls from friends you've lost contact with or friends you were never really friends with at all. It may become difficult for you and your partner to see who is genuine and who isn't. Pretty soon people will be asking for hand-outs, and you and your partner may begin to argue about whom you should or shouldn't help with your money. 7 Signs He's Dating You For Your Money


Bankruptcy. Divorce. Distrust. Just as a lot of money can solve your problems, it can create even bigger ones. Some lottery winners can't handle the responsibility of a lottery win, and this can overwhelm them. This pressure and stress can cause depression, not to mention the end of your relationship. Not only could you lose everything you've won, you could lose yourself. Money can bring out a side of people, or yourself, that you never even knew existed. Settling your debts and making smart spending choices, like donating to a local charity, can help keep the two of you stay grounded. And it'll make it easier for you to enjoy the luxuries of the lottery rather than be crushed beneath them.


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