3. Sexual change is a guarantee at life transitions. We like to believe that our sexual response should be consistent throughout our lifetime. I guess we think that change is negative, and maintaining the status quo is the only desirable alternative. But this is not realistic, and truthfully, not even desirable. Our bodies change with life transitions – for women, that could be childbirth or menopause. Men, on the other hand, don’t have such clear life transitions, but their bodies certainly change with age. In addition, as we age, we mature emotionally. This maturity translates into different sexual needs. For example, at age 30 you may have enjoyed sex for the physical pleasure of it. Now, sex may be more about the emotional connection it provides. The end result is that how we like to be made love to changes over time. The more open and accepting we are to these natural changes, the more ability we have of enhancing our sex life as we age.
4. Successful intimate relationships require that everyone gives more than their share. Making intimate relationships successful is one of the major challenges of life. Long-term intimacy requires a tremendous effort, and most people who find their relationships satisfying admit that their relationship is a priority in their life. I encourage my patients to expect to give more than they receive. If both partners approach their romance from this place, they are much more apt to generate the juice required to keep their intimate relationship alive and well. In the end, this approach seems to offer everyone the highest, and sweetest, quality of loving. How Do You Keep the Passion Alive?
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About the author: Dr. Marianne Brandon is a clinical psychologist and diplomat in sex therapy through AASECT. Dr. Brandon is Director of Wellminds Wellbodies LLC in Annapolis, Maryland and author of Monogamy: The Untold Story and co-author of Reclaiming Desire: 4 Keys to Finding Your Lost Libido.
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