Most of us are accepting of hands-on energetic touch such as Reiki as a valid healing modality. We often expect to feel energy exchange in our bodies during a regular massage or Rolfing session. It is pretty obvious that our energy / aura doesn’t end at our skin.
If we accept and understand that energy is transmitted from our fingertips then it should be easy to see that energy is transmitted by touch with other parts of our bodies as well. This holds very true during lovemaking.
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When a man is making love he can imagine and intend that his love reach the woman’s heart. A woman can imagine and invite her man’s essence up to her heart and beyond. Allow your energy and awareness to grow big. Isn’t energetics what transforms sex into lovemaking anyway?
I believe that the energy exchange takes place without our conscious volition, but with conscious intention it is much more of a factor. This intentional sexual energetic adds a powerful dimension to making love. One way to do this is to circulate your life force around the “micro-cosmic orbit”. As he sends desire / love / power energy out of his lingam she breathes the energy into her yoni and pulls it up to her heart or to her crown. She then cycles the energy back to his heart or crown and he brings it down to his genitals and it continues to go around this circle building in intensity. This can happen with or without a lot of physical movement and with or without the man’s erection.
Think about the Reiki example again. In Reiki we transmit healing energy out of our hands. Certainly our genitals can transmit energetics as well. My woman can always tell when I am consciously transmitting energy during lovemaking. Granted any energetic skill grows with practice, but men it is as simple as visualizing your lingam reaching her heart. Just as you would visualize gold or white healing light extending from your fingers the same can be done with your lingam. Allow your consciousness, your very being to expand and merge completely with your lover. Dissolve your whole awareness into love itself.
Feel deeply of yourself and your personal power. Feel the truth of who and what you are. This is what you’re bringing forth with your presence and your breath. This is what you’ll enter your woman with.
Spending time in a solo practice before meeting your lover is very helpful. Connect with the energy source deep within you. Prepare to touch your lover’s body while transmitting love and light. Maintain your own sense of power and alignment in your body as the experience unfolds.
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Remember that your partner wants to feel your essence and love in her body. She wants to feel your consciousness expand and penetrate her completely – physically, emotionally and spiritually. The woman’s fulfillment comes from receiving the man in utter surrender. So keep asking yourself “How deep can I glow?”
The author, Corey, is a Certified Tantra Educator and Intimacy Coach. He teaches workshops and offers private coaching sessions in person and by phone. Subscribe to his blog at www.tantracore.wordpress.com - Resources for creating a conscious intimate life and embracing emotional and sexual intimacy.